If You Don’t Delegate You Will Lose | Episode #301

Efficient and effective delegation is the key to productivity and execution.  If you do not know how to delegate effectively, you will not win in the game of business. It’s not about you doing everything yourself.  It’s about getting it done.

How to Get Over Your Fear of Public Speaking | Pete Mockaitis | Part 3 or 3 | Episode #300

Pete Mockaitis [Muh KITE iss] is an award-winning trainer who helps brilliant professionals perform optimally at work.

He’s delivered 1-on-1 coaching to over 700 clients hailing from world-class organizations (such as Google, McKinsey & Company, the United Nations, Goldman Sachs, and Apple), 50 countries, and every Ivy League school.

He began his career at Bain & Company and currently hosts the How to be Awesome at your Job podcast at Awesomeatyourjob.com. The show receives hundreds of thousands of downloads from 150 countries and has ranked in the top 5 within the iTunes Careers podcast charts.

pete@awesomeatyourjob.com

 

Putting Yourself First (#69)

As my flight got ready to take off this week, I watched the safety video that includes the familiar message I have now heard hundreds of times: “In the case of an emergency, secure your own mask first.” The airlines remind of this each and every flight because they’ve learned that we are more likely to focus on helping our kids first than ourselves, which could do more harm than good. This pragmatic tip is really an important metaphor for how we should live our lives.

For example, many of us don’t prioritize our own life goals and needs. We put ourselves last and too often say “yes” to other things and people, which divides our energy into too many disparate activities. The result is that we aren’t as successful, nor are we as effective at helping others as we could be.

There seems to be a lot of confusion around the concept of putting one’s self first and being selfish. I, personally, don’t see them as one in the same. Being selfish is more about believing that the world revolves around you and your needs and not caring about the well-being of others; putting yourself first is about not compromising your own needs.

If we don’t put ourselves first, then everyone we come across tends to get a suboptimal version of us. To be at our best – for ourselves and others— we need to make sure we are living in a way that leaves us happy, healthy, and rested. Some of the most generous and giving people I know are those who are very disciplined about their own priorities and goals.  The result is they have the capacity to give the most in a sustained way.

Here are three simple tips to help you get better about putting yourself first:

  1. Saying No: If we say yes to everything everyone asks us to do, we will never be in control of our own priorities. Think about using the “hell yeah or no test” to decide when to say no and relieve yourself from the associated guilt.
  2. Prioritize Basic Needs: Sleeping, eating, and movement (exercise) are all basic needs that should be an uncompromising priority in our lives. To point number one, this often requires saying no to other things.
  3. Keep a Journal: I keep coming across article after article about the benefits of journaling. An interesting aspect of this practice is that it provides a window into your stream of consciousness, self-accountability, and mindfulness.

The next time you find yourself making an excuse for something that you want to do for yourself, I encourage you to take a step back and consider the three tips provided above. If you are constantly putting your own needs and goals behind those of others, you’ll likely end up being too tired or resentful to enjoy your own success and achievement. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish; it’s often the best thing you can do in the service of others.

Quote of the Week

“Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”

Eleanor Roosevelt 

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Improve Your Memory to Improve Your Profitability | Ron White | 2 Time National Memory Expert | Part 3 of 3 | Episode #299

Ron White is a two-time national memory champion. He won the USA Memory Championship in 2009 and 2010. Ron held the record for the fastest to memorize a a deck of shuffled cards in only 1 minute and 27 seconds.  He held this record for two years and is a top memory expert.

Ron’s desire is not that you see him as the person with the best trained memory, but that he teaches YOU to have the best trained memory!

As a tribute to the fallen, Ron has memorized the names of more than 2,300 American service members killed in Afghanistan. He travels the USA writing the names on a 52 foot long wall from memory.  It took 10 months to memorize the 7,000+ words.

Ron speaks to audiences of all sizes around the world!  Including: Singapore, Indonesia, Ireland, Kenya, South Africa, Mauritius, Zimbabwe, Nigeria, Ghana, England, Italy, Germany, Spain, Australia, Thailand, Malaysia, Canada, The Bahamas, Puerto Rico, Belgium, and even Nebraska.

 

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The Trumps at Home – Miscommunication in America’s First Family? (pt 1)

Not since 1961 has there been such a glamorous, tight-knit celebrity First Family in the Whitehouse as the Trump family. Headed up by President Donald Trump this family is well used to public scrutiny and having the spotlight turned on their every waking move.

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It would foolish to believe that this noisy, fun loving, dynasty wouldn’t have robust dinner table discussions – even more so now that the head of the house is the President of the United States.

But what about the apparently reticent Flotus, that is, Melania Trump? What could be her behavioral and communication style? Well – dumb she is not – she speaks five languages which could certainly be useful at state dinners. Her background is ordinary – raised in Yugoslavia not as part of high society in a Trump-like tower, but in a concrete apartment block tower.

Married to the most influential leader in the free world, Melania Trump would need to be a special kind of woman to manage or influence her President husband and this blended family. Trumps Personality (Influencer DNA Behavioral Style) is well balanced by that of his wife’s personality (Facilitator DNA Behavioral Style). Melania Trump will be the glue to this high-powered, influential family.

The Trump family, through understanding their Natural Behavior and Personality, has obtained insights into how to navigate human differences and communication styles to build a cohesive family existence. They get each other. They understand where and when to modify their behavior in certain situations based on experiences, education, and values.

Work-Life balance is important to this family. President Trump uses a family residence rather than Camp David to relax. He refers to Mar-a-Lago as his Southern White House. A further example of work-life balance is their decision for the First Lady to remain in New York until the end of their young son Barons school year. They clearly believe in the age old adage a family that plays together, stays together.

Summary of the Family Strengths and Struggles:

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The Trumps are no different to other blended families. They will have heated and robust discussions. This is typical family dynamics and isn’t just because they are the Trumps/First family.

Not everyone in families is around the Thanksgiving table. There will always be black sheep or disenfranchised member – it’s called family. It is not unreasonable to assume there are personality challenges. There will always be blind spots in families. How we see each other depends very much on how we see ourselves. As parents, even in powerful, yet blended families such as the Trumps, we have different perspectives of our children because that is all that we can see or not see. The goal is to get more clarity. Understanding how each member communicates and how they wish to be communicated with can be a significant first step to delivering not just harmony, but where a family also works together, significant business success.

With reliability factor of 91% and having been completed by millions of people – taking the DNA Behavior journey helps families to manage the information gap. Many families fail because they don’t understand how to live harmoniously when there are different personalities and communication styles to be navigated.

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Behaviorally Smart Money – EP3 – The Market Mood

David Wolf is joined by DNA Behavior Principals Hugh Massie and Leon Morales as they discuss how the “Market Mood” module helps financial advisors predict and also navigate the reactions of their clients during extreme market moves.